By: Mead Reed, MA, LAPC, LAMFT
Your child often loses homework assignments, he is unable to stay focused on a given task, he has a lack of impulse control, and is disorganized—these are just a few of the behaviors that a parent might see manifest in a child who has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). This parent may often feel frustrated, overwhelmed and unsure of how to help the child who is struggling. The child may also feel that he never measures up to his parents’ standards, and he is constantly trying to do better. He may feel angry at himself that it takes him twice as long to do a task that would take his younger brother only a few minutes. It is a common misconception that a person with ADHD lacks intelligence. There have been many studies that have proved the opposite, that children with ADHD are often highly intelligent. According to an article in Psychology Today, a person with ADHD does not lack intelligence; however, he may lack the ability to best utilize his intelligence. The child with ADHD may not know that she also struggles with executive functioning, which makes it hard for her to plan ahead and to stay organized. Here are some tips to help a child who struggles with ADHD.
- Establish a regular routine. Forming regular mealtimes and bedtimes are crucial. The child will function better with structure and boundaries.
- Sleep plays an in important part in helping the brain with organization and proper functioning.
- Nutrition can play a crucial part in impacting a child with ADHD. Certain foods help with concentration. Research which foods help a child who has ADHD and which foods are good to keep to a minimum.
- Consider psychological testing to get an appropriate diagnosis. If a child exhibits many of the behaviors that fall in line with ADHD, than the parent will probably want to consider testing.
- Create more opportunities for play and adventure. Regular exercise helps to calm a child who
- Treat each child uniquely by focusing on her unique qualities. Notice how that child may be adventurous, spontaneous or creative.
- Consider going to counseling so the child can learn new tools to help him with his ADHD. Talking to an objective person may help him talk about his feelings more easily. The counselor can also give the parents helpful tools as well.
It is so important that a family who has a child with ADHD gets support and validation. It is also crucial that the family does not let the fear of rejection stand in the way of receiving help. It can feel very shaming to bring a child’s struggle into the light; however, it will actually provide incredible freedom and healing to talk about these concerns.