Matrescence
The Transition Period to Becoming a Mother Did you know that there is an anthropological term that defines the transition …
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The Shape of Our Identity
Why Our Family of Origin Matters Family dynamics are complex, shaped not only by individual personalities but also by the …
Take Up the Cross
In a recent episode of The Chosen, a television series created, co-written, and directed by Dallas Jenkins, I watched the …
Codependency, Part 3b
How do you war with your imperfections? In this next installment on Codependency, we focus on the relationship we have …
The Power of a Label
Our brains love labels. A label simplifies, organizes, and help us feel like we understand. It is satisfying to put …
A Life Transition
It’s the beginning of the school year for many people or families. This time of year can trigger all sorts …
Helping Your Adolescent (and Yourself) Survive & Thrive the Individuation Process
My firstborn just turned 11 and is entering middle school in a few weeks. I’m still confused about how we …
A Picture’s Worth a Thousand Words
Family Fun and Missed Expectations Summertime often includes family beach vacations, road trips, and family reunions. They can be the …
I Get By With a Little Help From My Friends
Do you ever feel so overwhelmed by life tasks that you do not know how you will make it to …
The Task Appointed to You Alone: The Care of YOU
“How Are You? How Are You, Really?” Perhaps you have been asked this question recently. It can be difficult to …
There is Hope after Trauma
I have found myself in several conversations recently, both with clients and friends, where the other person has implied that …
Identity Development
Identity development occurs throughout the lifespan. There are aspects of our identity we are born with that are inherent to …
Boundaries, Part 1
Are Your Problems Really About Boundaries? Boundaries are so important to overall emotional health. Knowing where our responsibilities lie and …
The Waters We Swim In
Over the past year, I participated in narrative-focused trauma training at The Allender Center. The program is centered around learning …
How Do You Be Yourself as a Man?
Be Yourself? “The most important thing about a man is not what he does. It is who he becomes”—Dallas Willard …