The Shape of Our Identity
Why Our Family of Origin Matters Family dynamics are complex, shaped not only by individual personalities but also by the …
relationships
The Power of a Label
Our brains love labels. A label simplifies, organizes, and help us feel like we understand. It is satisfying to put …
Living after the Launch
Navigating Life after your Child Goes to College Until last Saturday, I would have told you I knew what to …
Resentment & Grudges
Their Differences and How to Manage Them “When you own something and really square up to your culpability, I do …
A Picture’s Worth a Thousand Words
Family Fun and Missed Expectations Summertime often includes family beach vacations, road trips, and family reunions. They can be the …
A 3rd Place: Moving Toward Belonging Post-Covid
Before 2020, one of the things I enjoyed the most was meeting up with friends at a fast food spot …
The Placebo Effect
Which is easier to believe? Someone’s cancer went into remission after he was given a sugar pill, or a man …
I Get By With a Little Help From My Friends
Do you ever feel so overwhelmed by life tasks that you do not know how you will make it to …
Shifting Focus
Navigating Personal Challenges During the Holidays For many, the holiday season is a magnificent time of wonder and reflection. For …
Stop Fighting Against Your Spouse
Start Fighting for Them! We all know that marriage is a journey, but sometimes, it feels more like a boxing …
The Biblical Perspective on Nude Pictures in Marriage
A Consideration for Christian Husbands As a counselor who works with sexual addiction, I run into many manifestations of sexual …
Codependency
Part 3a: How Do You War With Your Value & Vulnerability? In previous articles, we covered why it is important …
Addressing “Mom Guilt”
Being a mother is quite complex. It is a combination of many joyful and challenging moments. There are times when …
About Me ~ Becky Philo
I’m Becky Philo, and I am honored to walk with you on your journey. God planted a seed in my …
I’ve Learned My Attachment Style, Now What?
With so much recent buzz around attachment styles, I’ve been curious about what you do once you’ve identified whether you …
Forgiveness and Empathy
My job brings me face-to-face with people deeply wounded by those who should have kept them safe. Whether a parent …
When Your Spouse Won’t Get Help
I’m sure that most of us in a committed relationship have thought to ourselves at some point that our spouse …
Putting Thoughts on Trial
“Of course that happened! I’m not good enough, remember?!” “I messed this family time up again, like always!” “Don’t answer …
HALT: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
In my bio I talk about how “I enjoy helping individuals 18+ notice when their ‘check engine’ lights are coming …
Embracing Humanity
Being human is challenging. It requires us to reckon with realities that we would prefer to resist or reject as …